Article Category: Dating
Added on: 01/03/08 03:34
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Meeting people for most people is an issue which becomes difficult the older we get. At first it is easy. you play on the playground and just walk to her/him asking to play together. Several years later it all becomes tricky, more complicated.
Why?
Sex!
You have just discovered that you still wantto play with that person but in a diferent way. Your first approach makes you open up in your subconcious and that is your worry. You worry to make the step, to show that you have an interest. Worry to be rejected. Worry to "look" stupid in front of other people.
Because of that not only yourself but many people dont make the first step. At least not in unknown territory. So most are looking for a known place or situation to make the step. At work, by joining a club for some kind of activity. This way, we pretend to appraoch the person with the common interest talking about work, sport etc to "feel" if there is an interest.
Guess what?
You are not alone. Most people hesitate and worry. At the same time, most dream of that encounter on the street with the big and eternal flash.
Instead of "hiding" at work, trying to join all different clubs and do all activiteis you never wanted wake up. Dont hide behind internet but go out. Talk to people, make the step!
the most important is to be very normal but with self confidence! Be normal yb not trying to look smarter, sound cleverer or have that amazing joke on you. all that gives the opposite impression to people. It is most clear that insecure people protect themselves behind a wall. A wall can be a joke, sentence, dress or behavior which is too much, - too obvious.
Just be yourself!
Tell a person he/she looks good in that dress. When taking the bus or train and you see a person making an impression on you just tell them. Tell them honestly and openly that they look good, are dressed well, the shoes are nice or special etc etc. Having said that nothing bad will happen.
We all love compliments!
However, do not then try to go on. Try to start the conversation. Instead, letthe other person realize of what you have said, think it over and loose her/his worries of what is expected. Once the person realizes that you expect nothing he/she will talk!
so how to seduce?
Just be yourself and do not expect to seduce!
If you are able to do so people will like you and be impressed. With that they will feel comfortable and look for your company. Maybe they will even try to get your attention more by giving out singnals.
Once you have reached the level of comfort you then can maek the next step. Opening again up to show your interest. Most likely you will not be rejected.
Why?
Because you have already had the occasion to get to know the person. You already know if he/she is single, married etc and open for a relationship or for a sex adventure. As you now know out of the conversation of what is possible you go into that direction. If the person is open for sex adventure talk about it, tell what you have done etc and try your luck....
to find out of the other person might take a few minutes, hours or maybe days or weeks. If however you are able to make the different steps you sure will have not only many friends but also can find of what you are looking for. You will seduce!
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